Personally, I'm not one to go changing myself to please others. I am a very opinionated person who goes by his own set of rules. I have always been like this. It may have gotten me into trouble with my parents and other adults while I was growing up, but I was never disrespectful in any way. At least, I tried not to be. But I did have a very close relationship with my dad! The thing he loved most in this world (aside from mom and me) was collecting model airplanes. He LOVED them. He actually got me into the hobby. I loved that he trusted me to be down there in the basement with him, helping him restore those amazing pieces of art back to their former glory. It made me feel proud to be his son. However, one day Billy Markowitz came over and wanted to see the basement. I told him we could only be down there for a few minutes because I wasn't supposed to be in there when my dad wasn't home. Billy promised, but of course he only did that so I would agree to let him down there. I soon as I opened the door her made a beeline for an airplane. Then I heard a sound that still chills my spine to the very day, dad's boots on the kitchen floor as the front door opens and shuts. Apparently Billy knew my dad was home too because he tried to make a U-turn and knocked 3 planes in a row to the floor. As you can imagine, my dad's world basically ended, as did my relationship with him. Those planes were passed down in his family generation after generation. I was whipped within an inch of my life that night, as was Billy. I still love my dad, even though he cut off contact with me for the past 20 years. I still look up to him, or the memory of him at least. I started collecting planes of my own, then that turned into, ships in bottles, which turned into tanks, which turned into baseball cards, which turned into baseballs, which turned into balls of every kind...you get the picture? So one day I come home and as I go through the daily routine of kicking the door in and stepping around the pile of saddles right by my front door, I see my mom and an elderly woman sitting on top of my unopened tvs in my living room (which I have sorta been using as furniture). They were having some kind of intervention. Can you believe it? How can you have an intervention with 2 people? My mom told me that she was worried about me and my health. I told her I was fine. The therapist told me that my home wasn't a healthy environment and that I was a "hoarder." I told her to put a cork in it. My mom told me that she thought I was a hoarder too and that dad was worried about me. It was the first time I'd ever heard such a direct lie pass from my mother's lips. So I told her what dad told her when he first started with the airplanes, "I prefer the term 'collector.'"
For my beloved 'Mione:)